Kending man ::

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ohio state university

Letter to a brokenhearted friend

You're not alone.

No, I am not brokenhearted too, nor was I dumped for another. No, not yet. I am saying that I think I can identify with your disappointment.

To this day, I am still dazed in more ways than one after being hit by the hard-punching machine a la Pacquiao that is reality. I am ambitious and my dreams are capricious. I am pensive; my goals, elusive.

While I have resigned from changing the world into something better than yesterday, now I want at least to live so that I could have reasons to smile when I die.

Alright, that's not always amusing especially for family and friends who during the wake, accidentally looks through the coffin.

Well, reality doesn't always favor those with good credentials or even good intentions. Frustration has a way of finding its way into our system or lack of it. We may be bruised, broke and battered bitterly, at least we're still alive. And while we're still breathing, ya panting, we might as well find a way of staging another valiant hurrah.

Ok, let's go to (monkey) business. No, not funeral parlor or embalming services (though that may be profitable these days when people are going berserk) but to my promise(s) when you were mourning the demise of your love (story). Ops, don't blame me if something eerie happens to (your) Jerry.

May I suggest that you take up graduate studies. I am proposing this with the knowledge that your job contract is about to end and your grief (because of him) is just starting.

I am not saying that a Master's degree will give you both money and honey immediately. I am neither speculating that you're also nearly broke nor assuming that you need a masteral so that you'll be better equipped to discern romantic overtures the next time you meet someone like Jerry. Certainly not.

There are scholarships abroad that give fairly good allowance that you'll feel like being paid as an executive while studying. While this is attractive (to my eyes), it is not my main point. I was just thinking that maybe, learning Japanese or doing research abroad will heal your broken heart. And bones. For instance, scientific literatures point out that yoga, no, yogurt has excellent therapeutic value for better digestion and regal posture as it supplies calcium and therefore, it fights osteoporosis. Well, you'll surely look every inch a beaten creature when, aside from a bleeding heart, you have a fragile and deteriorating spinal cord. Think about it. Drink Anlene today.

And what has yogurt got to do with foreign studies? Well, I was told that milk products in some countries are cheaper and abundantly available. Or, you might want to do research on adding pili to milk-based products. If you can sell pili tarts to your classmates, then, I'll call your (ad)venture a successful business.

Since you're over 22 now, the major step I think is to think of a research, not marriage proposal as early as today. Application for research scholarship takes time.

What if a good research proposal is just as elusive?

Ya, good question, bad disposition.

I can teach you AutoCAD for the mean time. For free of course. If your proposal gets dumped (again), at least you can easily move on to other job opportunities. Acquiring a skill, not knowledge, dramatically increases your market value.

For the mean time, drink Anlene regularly. When you think of Jerry, remember me.

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I wrote this letter a few years ago and I thought it may fetch some amount of relevance this Valentine. I also learned that another friend (let's call her Sunshine) was brokenhearted recently. I don't know if her man was similarly named Jerry. Hopefully not or else that may tell you something about Jerrys. I am sure though that many details of this piece don't fit her case but at the very least, this piece might give her some diversion. The last and practical reason for posting this antique material is that I find my classes here dizzyingly fast so I don't have much time to compose longer, more decent articles. In fact, this is the primary practical reason of reviving my spot in this blog world. Updating is easiest compared to my other websites.